Rejection: Dismissal of something that is deemed unnecessary or simply unwanted.

We can know for a fact that rejection is an everyday reality for victims of domestic sex trafficking.

Place to place.

Man after man.

Night after night.

Pimps and customers picking and choosing merchandise based on “value.” Putting a price on a soul they will never know. Taking their turn with a person they will never love.

When thinking about this tragedy, I begin to wonder: will these girls ever know what it is like to be loved? To be known?

I remember reading a definition in a book that changed my perspective on love, and consequently, on rejection. The book was entitled What Are You Waiting For? by Dannah Gresh. In this book she delves deep into the meaning of the Hebrew word, “yada.” This word is seen throughout the Old Testament and is translated as the English word, “know.” After much research, Gresh puts forth the following definition:

Yada: to know and to be known; to be deeply respected.

This word is used in verses like:

“Be still, and know (yada) that I am God.”–Psalm 46:10

“Search me, O God, and know (yada) my heart.”–Psalm 139:1

So what is Yada? Yada is the opposite of rejection.

  • Rejection says: “I’m over it.”
  • Yada says: “I’m right here.”
  • Rejection says: “You’re not worth the trouble.”
  • Yada says: “I see you, flaws and all, and you are worth it.”
  • Rejection says: “You’re not good enough.”
  • Yada says: “I admire and adore who you are.”
  • Rejection says: “Give up and start with something new.”
  • Yada says: “I’m never giving up on you.”

Yada is love and acceptance in its perfect form: a form only our Creator could have fabricated. Yada is the light at the end of the dark tunnel of rejection.

You see, the need for Yada is so deeply woven into our beings that we are torn apart without it.

This is why rejection cuts so deep. It is betraying our belief that Yada could be real. It is hardening our outer shell with skin so tough that we think (and hope) no one else will be able to see through.

Our belief in Yada is directly connected to our belief in God. As long as we have a Creator who knows us intimately and whom we can know as well, there is hope. We love like God loved us. At least we try.

What about those who do not have this hope? They cannot see love because they have not known our Savior who loves them. This is where we come in. At North Star Initiative we seek to restore survivors of domestic sex trafficking. We deeply desire to point them to a God who knows them and will never reject them. It is in this form that they will first experience Yada… and this is such a beautiful sight.